A favorite scent of mine! 

Eucalyptus Mint...perfect for any day!

Dry & Slow

Sometimes things aren't moving fast enough! You're in somewhat of a dry place. Things are happening, but they're NOT happening. Sure, the same old routine is going on. Day in and day out, but the things you've been dreaming about is like the very last bit of molasses slowly pouring out of the bottle. And you know that is slow! LoL. You have to ask yourself, "what is going on here?"  I'll give you a few things to think about.

1.)   "Are you wanting something that you're not supposed to have?"

2.)   "Have you prayed over it?" 

3.)   "Have you lost your motivation & now you're in a rut?"

4.)   "Do you have a support system...family and friends who believe with you?"

5.)   "Are you procrastinating and expecting things to fall in it's own place?"

6.)   "Are you angry and bitter?"

7.)   "Do you have "powerful" spiritual sisters in your corner?"

8.)   "Have you taken on too much as wife, mom, sister, daughter and/or, friend

        and now your dreams and goals are on the back  burner?"

9.)   "Do you need a girl's day?"

10.) "Do you need to re-evaluate some things in order to bring NEW clarity to the situation?"

It's obvious that something is going on. The point is that you step back, and take a look. Just because you're in a dry place doesn't mean that things aren't moving as you think they should. God is always working behind the scenes doing something. Whatever it is, you're now of aware of it, so take action one way or another as your spirit guides. (Even if you are to just remain still for the moment.)  

Food For Thought

Sometimes quiet, dry places brings a loud revelation! 

Ladies,

If someone wants to remain bitter because "they" have issues,

there is simply nothing you can do.

There are MANY reasons why people may become angry & bitter,

but let the truth be told, they're seriously justified!

However, a person MUST still get  it under control ,

deal with it, heal and have freedom from that.

 Bitterness is nothing to play around with.

 It steals so much! 

What I find interesting in some cases is that a person

 can be bitter and mad with "you" simply

 because you've moved on, you've grown.

That person doesn't hold your interest anymore.

 In the midst of you growing, they remained the same 

 and here comes part of the conflict.

The bottom line is this,...YOU  grew

Now it's time for them to grow...  IF  they look in the mirror!

Food For Thought

It's not your battle!

So indulge in your peace & joy!

Timing

"Did God tell you to take a HUGE jump,

 or did He tell you to just take one step?"

Food For Thought

There's a reason God doesn't want you to rush things.

So, be patient and stop biting off more than you can chew! 

You'll never be able to swallow such a large portion at once.

It will all come together one step at a time. Trust that. 

Keep in mind that there is a big difference

 between taking a random huge jump,

over a Leap of Faith that's been prayed about.

"Do YOU Use Common Sense?"

Hey Ladies,

As I wrote last night for my men's book, yes, a men's book....some things came to mind like
 "common sense."  And no, I'm not saying men don't use common sense. lol. The subject was completely different, however, since common sense came up in my spirit, I wanted to blog on it because in all honesty, some women fail to use this in "relationships" and just in everyday life issues. 

Having good judgement will usually keep things 
smooth, no matter what it is. If your "perception" is off
most of the time, then your judgement on things will be distorted.
Ask yourself, "why is that?" There is a reason that lack of common
sense leads you to make bad judgement.
Ponder over that today in your own life.

FYI:  The women's book is still a priority.! However, just as "I" think I'm done, my "Holy Spirit" guides me to write some more, and so I obey. We know the Spirit is never to be rushed. God's timing and not my own. So patience is key.

Food For Thought  

Don't underestimate common sense.

If you do, somehow it may cost you.

Free Yourself From Abuse!

Hello Ladies,
I hope all is well in your life and the life of those you love and hold near and dear. I'm at home alone so I decided to take a moment to post a blog.

Today I want to encourage all of you women who are in unhealthy, abusive, toxic relationships to get out of them. And by all means, DO NOT MARRY a man who abuses you in any way on any level. Trust me...if you stay, it will only get worse. Cut it off immediately, and if you're in danger, be wise about how you depart. Why am  I telling you all of this?  Simply because you deserve better. Staying in a bad relationship keeps you in bondage. Having the courage to walk away will give you more power than you ever knew you had. . Life is short. You should be happy living YOUR life.  If you have small kids, protect them. Teach them about the love of God. Give them a foundation to stand on asap. Don't allow anyone to corrupt their "normal & healthy" thinking pattern of right values and morals.  When you free yourself from such foolishness, you'll feel free. God will eventually send a loving man your way. Don't look for him, he'll show up when you least expect him...just as my husband did. Keep in mind, that when you do walk away,your ex may be very angry, vindictive, jealous and mean spirited towards you. Don't allow his poison to keep you in bondage or connected. This is only another reminder of how controlling your ex was and still wants to be.
You have the right to walk away from a person who makes you unhappy due to the abuse. You have a right to be happy. You owe him nothing!!!  All that you can do for a person like that is pray that GOD will deliver him. Pray that God changes that man's heart. YOU CANNOT CHANGE ANYONE...only God can. The last thing that you need to remember... "You are beautiful...don't allow anyone to steal your joy,your peace nor your  happiness.

Food For Thought

Proverbs 6:34

For jealousy is the rage of a man:

therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. 

(Don't allow the scripture above to put fear in you.

This allows you to be wise & be on guard. )

Hello Blog Followers! I hope all has been well in your life and the lives of your family and friends. I thought today was the perfect day for me to REPOST a BLOG writing that I did back in August 2011.
I wanted to share with you so that you will never be caught off guard , blindsided by the schemes of someone who wants to draw blood from you. For many men, this is their story. I  know what they have gone through when a woman that they're no longer with, simply can't let go so they attack in any way they can to make the father suffer. How do they do it? They use the child as a pawn.
 How do I know this?
"It's my own personal story?" 

Simply put: I walked away from an abusive relationship. That person could no longer abuse me. I met a wonderful man who swept me off my feet. This wonderful man loves all three of my sons. This man pampered me. This wonderful man married me almost 4 years ago.

Problem: My ex had a problem with it from the very start and still does. He's been jealous,spiteful, and still verbally abusive. He has stopped at nothing to attempt to have control in some way.

Resolution: Trust God no matter what! GOD SEES EVERYTHING! So even when it looks all wrong...trust that GOD is doing something behind the scenes. If you're a righteous man or woman and you know that you've been living according to GOD's ways...HE has your back, no matter what. Remember, what the devil meant for harm, GOD will turn it around and work it out for your good.
Keep in mind ,EPHESIANS 6:12 "For we wrestle not against flesh and and blood,but against principalities, against powers,against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.Pray for your enemies. You've come too far to turn back. You are a child of God and will remain a child of God.

"Parental Alienation"

This is a very serious matter. For those of you who aren't aware of it...allow me to explain in simplest terms. Parental Alienation is a "severe" case of brainwashing of a child during a break-up or a divorce. One parent trys to gain all aspects of "control" over the child and/or children. The ultimate goal for the brainwasher is to make you look bad, because in all honesty, you are the "good parent". Not to say that the other parent is "bad". However, the behavior of such things are awful. The parent who is trying to gain control, plots & plans schemes of deception, lies,manipulation and a host of underhandedness. More than likely, this person was an abuser in the relationship/marriage. The objective here is to get what they want & to try and make your life a living hell because you decided that you no longer wanted to remain in an unhealthy relationship or marriage. The brainwasher uses anything & everything to twist the truth, and knows no morals when on his or her personal mission.
There is so much to parental alienation that I won't get into...however I will suggest that you do your research and ALWAYS be the bigger person by not bad mouthing the parent who has taken this negative approach. Parental alienation is a painful experience for the parent who is loving and doing the right thing. In the end, you'll be able to sleep at night knowing that your conscience is clear.
Last but not least, DO NOT take this severe case of brainwashing personal! DO NOT take your frustrations out on your child/children. You will not be able to make a child or children understand adult matters. Just give it to GOD,and keep being the best parent that you know how to be.

Food For Thought

As your child matures,

eventually he or she will see the big picture.